cancer

Heal Thyself

Heal Thyself

It’s been a while since I’ve updated everyone on the cancer front. Been difficult to collect my thoughts on the issue. As some of you have been asking, I thought I’d just push out what I have. Tam is Ok. Whatever that means. We use the term every day to disguise many feelings, right? If you ‘look at the patient’ – she has a lot more energy now and is back at work on light duties. But her hair continues to fall out and recently some of the initial symptoms returned, albeit briefly. There are days where I think she’s…

You get by with a little help from your friends

You get by with a little help from your friends

It’s true – and it’s the little things that matter. So thanks to everyone who has offered us support in the past month. Your thoughts and actions are appreciated! There’s not a whole lot that anyone can do. Until recently, we’d say “come visit us!”. But all that’s changed now. We need to take extra precautions when having visitors. Cancer in a time of COVID-19 is interesting, to say the least. The virus could kill Tam with her weakened immune system. No exaggeration. So we’re avoiding any unnecessary travel into central Bangkok and avoiding contact with anyone we consider ‘high-risk’….

Back on the juice

Back on the juice

So we’re in the middle of the 2nd chemo cycle and have a much better idea of what to expect now. Each cycle consists of: An overnight stay at the hospital where treatment begins at approx 9 AM and Tam is released a little over 24 hours later. An outpatient treatment which occurs a week later and is done in a day. A two week break before the next cycle begins. Rinse and repeat. Before (1) and (2) her blood is tested to ensure she is up the fight. We do this at a nearby hospital and have the results…

In stasis

In stasis

Nothing puts a dent in your hopes and dreams like cancer. Forget about next month, all we can really do is worry about the immediate future. What’s on the docket for next week, so to speak. ‘In stasis’ – an apt if unusual term. We’ve finished the first round of chemo and the next one kicks off on March 4th. We recently filed the insurance paperwork and haven’t heard back yet. Hoping they don’t stuff us around. You only discover how good your insurance is when you make a claim. The wife then bundled us into an accident policy, which…

Life rolls on

Life rolls on

Another first – pushing the wife around the local mall in a wheelchair! I might as well have been driving a bulldozer as people can’t get out of the way fast enough. Lovin it! In many ways, life rolls on! Meals have to be prepped, dishes washed and clothes hung out to dry. I’ve got all that sorted, this is where I can really shine. Housework – so meditative! I washed the car for the first time last weekend. As good a 30-minute workout as I would have had at the gym. Had I attended one. Which I don’t. Hate…

Cloudy, with a chance of chemo

Cloudy, with a chance of chemo

At least she has a decent view, I thought, as I ponder the 200 buck plus price of the room for her one night stay. Ah, the concrete jungle which is Bangkok. How I miss gazing out at it while near comatose in the back of a taxi after the bars have called “Time, Gentlemen”. While the jungle animals were mostly asleep and the traffic a little lighter. Those halcyon days. Be here now. We’ve checked in to the hospital and visited the food court. Pretty decent offerings by the look of it but I’m not hungry. The Mrs has…

My wife has cancer – Now what?

My wife has cancer – Now what?

My wife Tam was recently diagnosed with cancer. That’s so fucked. But then I thought “In six months I’ll be able to own this joke”: Me: My wife got burnt the other day. Friend: Badly? Me: Yeah, they don’t fuck around at the crematorium. The above should illustrate two things about me: 1) I’ll need humour to get through this and 2) I swear It’s a lot to come to terms with, in a short space of time. Here’s the latest: Disclaimer I’m not a medical professional and treatments described here may not be suitable for anyone else. If you…